What kind of conversations are you having?

There are 3 conversations happening within any conversation:  The what happened conversation Who did what? Who is to blame? Who “should’ve known” It seems that when my husband and I disagree or miscommunicate, we get stuck talking about all the meta parts of who said what when. It isn’t until we recognize that this type […]

Life together is meaningful

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms-the ability to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” -Frankl I’ve been grappling with purpose lately. Yes, that word we often trip over while trying a little too hard. Viktor Frankl and Dietrich […]

Seeing the Good in Others

We can’t have relationship without other people. But when we invite others into our life, we will experience disappointments and injustices that lead to conflict. Conflict, unresolved, will act like a slow growing cancer which kills not only the relationship but also our hopes and dreams. It doesn’t have to be this way. Look, if […]

Blessings are like Boomerangs

Serving others certainly has its rewards. It takes you out of your regular routine, you get to show people that they matter, and the blessings are like boomerangs; you give out and it comes right back. In the last few years serving others took on many new shapes and forms. What have you experienced? Much […]

Emotions getting the better of us?

Can what happens in our brain affect how we engage conflict?  Why do I overreact about the little things? When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child,  I reasoned like a child. When I became a man,  I put the ways of childhood behind me. 1 Corinthians 3:11 […]

The Challenge with Children

It’s Easter week and for the Christian that means it is the most important season of the year. If it were not for Christ’s death on the cross and his resurrection 3 days later we would not have the faith we do today. That’s pretty significant!  When I run group coaching courses I like to […]

3 Attributes to Better Listening

If there is one skill that is most highlighted and trained on it is listening. In his book, The Normal Christian Worker, Watchmann Nee dedicated one chapter on listening. There is a ton of information and heartfelt words throughout the chapter, below are 3 points I gleaned and want to pass on to you. 3 […]

The Spiral of Believing Lies

Some point in my life I noticed that I was an instigator of relationships. It comes naturally to me to reach out and invite people out for coffee, or over for a meal. In my 26 years of marriage, we have instigated and hosted small groups in our home, game nights, or quick walks in […]

The woman, the well and a beautiful restoration

God did Adam a solid when he made Eve. Later Christ did mankind a solid when he “gently lifted women out of shame and restored their honor.” (Kristi Mclelland)  God created Eve to be a companion and a co-laborer with Adam. They worked the garden, they made babies, and walked together with God. Then we […]